A Love Letter to My Wife on Her 45th Birthday....

It’s crazy to comprehend we’ve been together for 28 years. As you reach your 45th birthday and are probably struggling with this one 😉. I was looking through this blog and thought…It’s been 10 years since I last posted a letter for your birthday, so here’s a much overdue and so passionately deserved love letter on your birthday. 

As is common with couples together as long as we have been 😱, we tend to find comfort in our relationship – knowing we’ll always be there for each other. Although we don’t say it (i mean c’mon..28!) we are soulmates always and forever. Knowing that we will always be there for each other gives me a tremendous feeling of safety.

I know you understand how much I love you, but I sometimes think you don’t grasp the magnitude. When I tease you about trading you in, or you being my Pookie Bear #2, I hope you know how much I worship you and the ground you walk on…. I know it sounds funny, but I couldn’t be more serious. You have given me everything I could ever want and desire…your life, your love, your passion, our children, your strength and stability, knowing you will always be there. I have difficulty comprehending why you doubt and question yourself sometimes. I follow your lead every day we’re together, otherwise I’d be a wreck 🥴. You are the strength of our family and the main reason our two children just might make it in today’s chaotic society.

You complain about your feet, your skin, your gray hair and those silly little freckles that make you so beautifully mature. I look at those same qualities - and I’m thankful for every single one, well maybe not the feet. I’ve seen you earn each of those freckles and every one of those gray hairs. It’s the journey that got us to where we are that makes you so exceptionally beautiful to me….not the destination that is the freckles or gray hair. I look at you every day and still see the most beautiful person in the room – even more beautiful today than that first time I saw you in high school.

Our history together has been filled with great times, quite a few trials, but mostly filled with love and respect for one another. We’ve never set rules for each other that many couples do (and that seems to get them in the most trouble). Our relationship is based entirely on love and unspoken trust for each other. I can’t remember the last time I heard “you can’t” from either one of us because we know what each other's tolerance is. We respect one another enough to know what we should or shouldn’t do. That makes life for us easy. We hear all the time about other relationships' struggles but we really don’t know what that means. I don’t need to be reminded that you are the most important person in my life.

I know I can be a bit of a chore to live with at times. I’m very comfortable at home with you and our kids (I admire you and them), sometimes too comfortable that I forget about adult responsibilities. I can be pain on you and our kids when things don’t always go as I expected them to (and I can tend to hold you accountable for that – unnecessarily), and I tend to be a little obsessive about keeping that comfortable lifestyle for us but for most part it's your lifestyle that keeps our family on the right path. Yes, I'm wrong more times than you are and you still put up with me, just more reason to love you more. I’m willing to live with the consequences of you being right if it means you are happy. I love when you are happy. I benefit when you are happy. Seeing you happy makes me feel successful in supporting you. If things never change from now till we are both wrinkly, I will be as thankful for everything you do - now and always.

Not a day goes by that I don’t have you in my mind. I still get that feeling of love when I think of you or that tingly feeling of seeing you when you get home from work. I couldn’t be more satisfied with the way we love each other – mentally and physically. I know you prefer not to talk about these things and prefer to not express your wants and desires and that’s Ok with me, as long as you promise to tell me if I ever leave you wanting for more. We’ve had a great life with each other over these past 28 years. I’m sure you are worried about getting older, worried about the kiddos, worried about family, and worried about approaching menopause 🤣, and worried…. (on and on), but the one thing you never have to worry about is me being there with you, for you and because of you.

Now…some will say I’ve given you way too much leverage by pouring my thoughts and my heart out to you in this letter. I say it is way past overdue. I could've given you some crazy expensive gift this year, but I figured my innermost thoughts in this love letter are most deserving. You are – and always will be – the absolute love of my life.

Daniel,

Your loving husband